How I Help Manage My Anxiety

This is a super sensitive subject for me, I don’t usually post anything personal out there but this is a new blog and I’m going to start opening up. I’m so inspired when I see fellow bloggers opening up about things that have happened in their life.

I’m like many of adults that live with everyday anxiety. It’s exhausting really. I worry about something (usually something I have no control over), my legs shake constantly from being so restless. I can’t handle being in a room with more than 10-15 people, so yes concerts are out of the question. I also have what’s called chronic migraine (my doctor thinks the two play into each other).

As you can imagine it’s hard to pull myself out of bed to go to work every morning or get up on weekends. I’m not depressed I just don’t want to deal with these feelings alllllllll day long. My friends and family don’t really understand so I hear “why don’t you just get over it” a lot. If that was the case I would be ok and I wouldn’t feel life this, duh. A few seem to think I do it for attention, like I enjoy having a panic attack in a bathroom stall or at my desk. Yes, that is strictly for everyone’s amusement. When I’m feeling overwhelmed I escape to my car just incase an attack comes on. If you’ve ever experienced a panic attack then you know your not at your best when your hyperventilation, can’t breathe, feeling like your heart is going to jump out of your chest, your shaking & sweating.

I take Lexapro on a daily basis (whew, without it I’m a wreck). It helps take the edge off but not completely enough to satisfaction. I don’t want to take a lot of medications (unless I have to. No offense if you take a lot of meds,. I’m sure your not doing it for fun), I take Lexapro & my birth control pills daily (how’s that for honesty) but I also take herbal solutions. I’ve talked to my doctor (I just love her) and was given the go to take them, thankfully.

I take 3 Valerian root (they are huge and they smell horrible) at 6:45pm when I get home from work and 3 more at 9:00pm about an hour before bedtime. It helps me sleep all night which is amazing. When I don’t take it is average about 4 1/2 hours of sleep. I take 1 entire dropper of Cherry plum in the morning in 2 tablespoons of water (again, this stuff..whew.. it’s gross. But it works!) before I head out for work. If I’m having a trying morning or I have a migraine I’ll dab a little lavender oil on my wrists. I’ve suffered from anxiety for years but with my medication and these herbal supplements it’s not at its worse everyday. I’m not telling you to run out and buy these things, I’m not a doctor but I wanted something that wasn’t manufactured by a drug company or something I could get hooked on.

Valerian root benefits
generally used for medicinal purposes
• relieve anxiety
• depression
• poor sleep.

Cherry plum benefits
• Fear of losing control
• Worrying.

Lavender oil benefits
• Reduces anxiety and emotional stress
• Improves sleep
• Alleviates headaches

27 Replies to “How I Help Manage My Anxiety”

  1. Thank you for this , it’s been very helpful. I too suffer from anxiety and as of late it has gotten worse. I was at the hospital the other day for a panic attack we thought was my gallbladder. The chest pains were just stress. My boyfriend was shocked when he heard the doctor say it was anxiety. He didn’t realize how much it affected my life till that day. I’m currently dealing with stress at work from a harsh boss, graduation for my daughter and then she’s off to college and I recently divorced about a year ago and our world was turned upside down so I feel there’s a lot on my plate. I am here with you in the struggle and we will get through this , just learning to take it day by day and try not to worry about the future too much now. I may take up yoga again to help with this and my boyfriend suggested meditation although it’s difficult for me to remain still and focus, we shall see. God Bless and Namaste

  2. Love these tips, I especially love lavender essential oils. I’ve also had struggles with anxiety, and it does take courage to open up and talk about it. I’ve found that doing so actually helped ease my anxiety because I’ve found a lot more people who can relate and commiserate by being honest about it. Great post!

  3. I had problems with anxiety after I had my son. I have used the lavender oil (just smell it) and I feel that it calms me down. It’s hard to admit when you deal with anxiety, so thanks for opening up and letting us know how you deal with it!


  4. Thank you for sharing! I think it’s great that you’re sharing about your anxiety, because you’re helping others and yourself. I for one will be looking into Valerian root and Cheery Plum, I already use Lavender. I find that it helps to write about my anxiety, I use to hide it, but now that I’m a *little* more vocal about it via my blog I feel a little relief. 🙂
    Wishing you all the best!

  5. Thank you for being willing to share such a personal part of yourself. There are many people that deal with anxiety everyday and hearing from other people that face the same kind of issue provides a lot of comfort to them. It’s great to know you are not alone!

  6. I suffered from chronic migraines. My doctors all agreed it was stress related not food related. Thankfully, I’ve been medicine free for the migraines now for years as well. Love that you are working through all natural routes to treat them.

    1. I’m starting to think mine are stress related as well, on top of the food trigger. I’ve had one since Saturday. I don’t like to go to the ER to get shots so i’m trying to relax and let it go away on it’s on. I’m glad you found relief from yours as well!

  7. First off, thank you for opening up and sharing something so personal. I know from experience how crappy anxiety is and have a really hard time talking about it with others. I am not on a daily regiment, but when I am having a hard time I am so nervous about taking something that my concern over that seems to make everything even worse…ugh panic. Thanks so much for sharing your herbal recommendations. I have talked to my doctor about this but she doesn’t seem to totally get the “hippy medicine” that I am requesting. Great tips that I’m definitely going to try out. Before I go to bed I spritz my bed with a mixture of lavender and rosemary oil which I find totally calming when paired with meditation tapes.

    P.S. your blog has THE BEST NAME EVER! Like for real…

  8. Thank you for sharing something so personal, it definitely helps those who are going through the same thing. Good to know I can use lavender oil for this as well.

  9. Thank you for visiting me today. I use and love Nature’s Sunshine products in dealing with many problems. I also love essential oils. I am so glad you found some things that will work and help you-Anxiety is one of those things that is hard to handle.

  10. Wow! I’ve heard of lavender oil for migraines, but I always thought it goes on the temples and cannot wait to try it on the wrist. Thanks for that info!
    My husband and I use valerian for sleep a lot, especially when we travel and get a bad bed or unfamiliar surroundings keep us awake. Surely helps! And it is non-addicting. When I first took my very first dose, I was shocked because I did not wake up feeling sluggish. NO! I woke up feeling younger! Loved it from the get-go.
    I also used valerian for migraine pain, along with white willow bark, which is what everyone used before aspirin. I cannot use aspirin because my stomach bleeds, but white willow bark works well enough that I can get a bit of sleep. My migraines would last 3 days, a long ol’ time to go without sleep. 😉

  11. You had me at cupcakes…and anxiety.
    So glad I found you, hope we can virtually visit often. 🙂
    Shared so others can enjoy your blog too. 🙂

  12. This was so great to read as I suffer from anxiety as well. I appreciate you sharing!

  13. I have heard lavender helps! I’m glad you opened up about this, maybe you’ll connect with others going through it!

    1. I’m hoping to. That’s a little why I opened up about it. It’s a little embarrassing for something so personal, eek!

  14. Thank you for sharing! I know sharing personal stuff is hard, but for those who also suffer from this sort of thing it is appreciated. We feel less alone. I am also happy to learn of alternatives to traditional medicine to deal with anxiety. I am going to check this out further for myself and my daughter.

    1. Good luck with them for you and your daughter. The valerian root is great! When the lady first suggested it I was taking 6 at 630pm and 6 at 9pm everyday for the first month. I was wound up so tight and I didn’t want to increase my prescription.

  15. I suffer from anxiety occasionally and it helps if I walk or run on the treadmill and paint my flower pots or garden. I had considered medicines if exercise,gardening and blogging didn’t help.But luckily exercise *known to release endorphins and improve and stabilise moods) has helped me a lot.
    Thanks for sharing. I am rooting for your. That ypu are working at getting better isuch more than many are able to do.

    1. Thank you! I’d love to get out and exercise more. I don’t really have a lot.of time to do it on the week days because I work from 7am-6pm and usually I’ve got classes after that. I’m thinking I need to slow down a little. I do get out on the weekends though.

  16. I use lavender oil and had heard of the others but never tried them. I’m super curious now… I learn to try alternative methods instead of always opting for medication and I’m pretty happy with the results. At the very least, there are no horrible side effects…

    1. My thoughts exactly. I’ve been on Lexapro for so long that if I don’t take it for a day I get so sick, nobody has time for that.

  17. I knew about the lavender but not the others and their benefits. Love you are managing with natural ingredients. Thank you for opening up and sharing.

    1. Thank you. This post want so bad, I thought for sure someone would be negative about it. I wish I could stop the Lexapro but without it I get so sick.

  18. I am a big believer in essential oils. I make up concoctions all the time for family and friends. They work..been around forever. Lavender is one of the best ones for almost everything. You should try frankincense oil too..I have never heard of cherry plum drops, will look into it. Best of luck to you.

    1. Thank you for the suggestion, I’ll see if I can find some of that oil too. Could it be diffused daily? I’ve noticed after work (most days) I’m so anxious I get just want to curl up on the couch and sleep.

  19. I can totally relate. Just a simple run to the store to pick up a few things is exhausting. I also prefer to limit medications if possible. I use Lavender essential oil, but I haven’t tried the other two. I’m going to look into it! Thanks!

    1. I love my Lavender oil I also love that a little goes a long way. I hope the other 2 when out forfor you if you decide to try them.

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